Oh, snap, I said it. I’m not a natural homemaker. In fact, if I’m being honest, it is something I have struggled with for most of my 9-year marriage. Even though I’m from the south, where everyone and their fat cat in the window is a natural-born homemaker. Somehow I missed that memo.
I struggle to keep on top of laundry and housework, I struggle to find a schedule that works for me and my family. Yes, I could blame it on having a special needs kid. But I struggled before Austen was born too. Some would blame it on being the child of a single-mom growing up, but the truth is my mom was a pretty dang good homemaker, even though she worked outside of the home.
I was taught the right way to clean and do laundry.
My family expected to know how to clean baseboards and remove stains from my laundry.
Still, as an adult, I have struggled. I can’t say exactly why, only that I did. And it has taken a lot of work on my part to move past those struggles.
Over the next few weeks, or maybe months, I plan to focus this little blog a bit more on how I have overcome, and am still working towards overcoming, my struggle to be a good homemaker.
I believe that this is what I am supposed to do. I’m supposed to create a comfortable home environment for my family and friends to enjoy. But that doesn’t mean it’s easy. And it doesn’t mean I won’t find new struggles down the road.
If you also find yourself struggling to be the homemaker you feel you should be. If you find yourself continuously falling short of your own expectations, you’re not alone. You’re not even close to being alone.
So what do I do?
My dream is to be a millennial Martha Stewart/Joanna Gaines hybrid. Which is honestly pretty embarrassing to admit. As a kid, my sick days were spent on the couch watching Martha Stewart Living. And as an adult, I often procrastinate with a marathon of Fixer Upper. No shame here.
But can I ever reach that dream when I’m not a natural homemaker? Can I really be Martha if there is constantly a load of laundry on my couch waiting to be folded?
Yes, and no. I can reach my dream, even if I struggle. Many people have over the years.
Elvis’ first album flopped. After that, he was told he couldn’t sing when he auditioned for a quartet.
Stephen King’s first novel was rejected 30 times before he found a publisher willing to accept it.
JK Rowling has been quoted as calling herself ‘the biggest failure I knew’ before finding her success.
If you feel like a failure, you’re in good company. We just can’t stop trying and learning. We can’t stop working. Eventually, we will succeed.
Are you ready?