When I was a kid there were three things I wanted to be. A mom, a wife, and a writer. That’s it.
I was raised by a working mom and a housewife aunt and I saw the best of both worlds in these two women. But still, when I saw my future I didn’t see it in an office. I saw it at home and taking care of my family.
Still, even though I currently have everything I wanted as a child, I have found that it is hard to admit it in public. For some reason being a housewife and proud about it holds a stigma in the world today, and I just don’t get it. But I find myself making excuses for why I stay at home. Making sure people know that I have a college degree, and I have a special needs kid to take care of. The truth is though, even if Austen was medically normal I’d still probably be staying at home. At least I would still want to.
I like cleaning my home.
I like taking care of my kids.
I like keeping the family budget.
And I like being able to do all that while pursuing my own dream from home at the same time.
Now, please don’t freak out on me. Don’t think that I am turning my back on all of my bra-burning sisters by wanting to stay at home. I fully support the rights of women to go out and pursue their careers and try to break the glass ceiling. If that is what you want for your life, go for it! That’s awesome!
You can have a career and have kids. You can hire a housecleaner or have your husband do 50% of the housework. That is all absolutely fabulous, and I am so grateful for the feminists of the past who have broken those barriers so that we as women can do those things.
But I think part of being a feminist is having a choice. I choose to stay at home. It’s what I want to do; it’s where I feel that I belong. I shouldn’t have to be ashamed of that.
Being a housewife is hard work. That work shouldn’t be looked down upon because I do not receive a salary.
So yes, I am a domestic engineer, the CEO of my home. I cook, clean, and wipe snotty noses all day. I’m a stay at home mom, a housewife. And I’m proud to be one.
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